After a slow, warm induction that softens the throat – the place where words get stuck – you walk down a staircase into a room where nobody is keeping score. There you remember how you once learned to talk without a list of correct sentences, and find that the language of desire works the same way: you learn it by living in it, in your own accent. The shyness is allowed to stay; it just no longer holds the door shut.

At the deepest point the dirty mind – the quiet voice that already notices what you like – starts to speak by itself. You let one sentence rise inside, then, if you want, move your lips, whisper, say it half aloud. You discover the slower, lower voice that carries it, and the skill underneath: one sentence, a pause, watching how it lands, and asking. Then time drifts forward, and you remember an evening when it was easy – and one when a line missed and you both laughed.

Who it is for: adults who freeze or go blank in bed, and adults who reach for borrowed lines that do not feel like theirs.

What to expect: 35 minutes, somewhere you could whisper unheard. A deep, warm trance with two descents, small optional steps from inner voice to half aloud, and a count back up from one to five. Whatever your body does, or does not do, is right. Erotic and suggestive, never graphic.

Before you listen

• For adults only (18+).
• Never while driving or anywhere you need to stay alert. Find a place where nobody needs you – ideally where you could whisper without being overheard.
• Not with psychosis or a dissociative disorder, or in an acute crisis.
• Not if experiences of sexual boundary violation or of being shamed in a sexual context are still unprocessed.
• It talks openly about desire and the words people use in bed, without getting graphic. Every invitation to say something – inside, with your lips, in a whisper, half aloud – is optional.
• There is no anchor. The words stay with the intimate moments you choose, with adults who have chosen you.
• To stop at any point: open your eyes, press your feet into the floor and say your name out loud. It ends with a count from one to five.

Chapters

• 00:00:00 – Before we begin
• 00:00:57 – There is no script
• 00:02:16 – Going in: warmth, an open throat
• 00:07:05 – The staircase
• 00:09:43 – How you learned to talk
• 00:12:39 – The shyness can stay
• 00:15:21 – Inside, lips, whisper, half aloud
• 00:21:13 – The voice, and noticing
• 00:25:38 – A memory from the future
• 00:31:39 – In the days to come, and back up

Background reading

• Why desire begins in the mind – and often gets stuck there

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A slow induction lets your body grow heavy from the feet up, and an old iron chain lowers you, link by link, into a quiet place. There you find what weight looks like from the outside – still hands, a silence you can hold, a voice that goes down at the end, eyes that stay one breath longer. Then, at the deepest point, the old doubts get their turn: too much, what if they say no, am I allowed to want this. You do not fight them. You let them sound far away, turn them down a notch, and give them a new job. A few quiet sentences settle in – keep the ones that fit – and you see yourself through other people's eyes.

Only then does someone else arrive: an adult who chooses you, and chooses to lean into what is steady. Dominance here is given, never taken – and it comes with you into ordinary days, held by a single deliberate breath.

Who it is for: adults who explain too much, ask permission they do not need, or hold back in closeness – and would like to lead calmly instead.

What to expect: 35 minutes, sitting or lying down. A deep, slow trance with two descents and a count back up from one to five. Whatever your body does, or does not do, is right. Sensual and suggestive, never explicit.

Before you listen

• For adults only (18+).
• Never while driving or anywhere you need to stay alert. Sit or lie down somewhere nobody needs you for a while.
• Not with psychosis or a dissociative disorder, in an acute crisis, or in an acute phase of social anxiety – then treatment comes first.
• Not if experiences of abuse of power or sexual boundary violations are still unprocessed.
• Dominance here is given, never taken: the trance is about an adult who freely chooses it, and a no is information. It works only on your own attention and does not replace therapy.
• To stop at any point: open your eyes, press your feet into the floor and say your name out loud.
• It ends with a count from one to five: you come back awake, clear and alert.

The anchor in this trance

This trance offers you a self-anchor, announced openly in the recording.

• Cue: A deliberate breath, only when you choose it: in through your nose down to your belly, hold it briefly at the top, then out through your nose, long and slow – shoulders drop, jaw softens.
• How long: The more you use it, the stronger it gets. Left alone for a long time, it fades gently on its own. Never while driving or when your attention is needed elsewhere.
• To release it: Think once, clearly, that you do not need it anymore – and the link dissolves.

Chapters

• 00:00:00 – Before we begin
• 00:00:56 – Weight, not force
• 00:02:02 – Going in: heavy from the feet up
• 00:07:10 – The chain, first descent
• 00:09:54 – Gravity, stillness, voice and gaze
• 00:14:04 – The deepest point: the old voices
• 00:18:52 – Sentences that stay, seen by others
• 00:24:04 – Someone who leans in
• 00:28:24 – Into ordinary days, and the breath
• 00:32:44 – Coming back

Background reading

• Why desire begins in the mind – and often gets stuck there

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After a quick, direct induction you go back to a small moment of friction with someone you found attractive and practise three simple moves: feet down, breath low, eyes steady. You learn to read a contradiction as a kind of touch made of words – and to keep one line very clear: a no about an opinion is friction, a no about bodies or closeness is a closed door. You sit in the other person's seat for a moment, feel what it is like to be met instead of folded or fought, and take a word with you: flint.

Then it moves into the future – a table for two, a teasing message on your phone, an elastic band held at both ends – and the moment when the argument turns into something else, only when it moves in both of you.

Who it is for: adults who flirt and date, and who tend to back off, argue or smooth things over the moment someone pushes back.

What to expect: 31 minutes, sitting or lying down. A direct, energising trance: you come back awake and alert, and the word stays with you for three days. Sensual and suggestive, never explicit.

Before you listen

• For adults only (18+).
• Never while driving or anywhere you need to pay attention to something else. Sit or lie down somewhere nobody needs you for a while.
• Not with psychosis or dissociation, in an acute crisis, with epilepsy, or after alcohol.
• Not for relationships with violence or threats: the trance treats friction as charge – danger is not friction.
• It works only on your own attention. Nobody else agrees to anything because you listened.
• This is an awake trance: you come back alert and energised, and part of the state stays with you for three days.
• To stop at any point: open your eyes, put your feet on the floor and say your name. You are clear, alert and free of everything in the recording.

The anchor in this trance

This trance offers you a self-anchor, announced openly in the recording.

• Cue: In a moment of flirting or friction with someone who draws you in: press the thumb and first finger of your right hand together and think the word "flint".
• How long: 72 hours, then it fades. Listen again for another three days, or extend it one day at a time – only by your own clear decision.
• To release it: Think once, clearly: "flint is just a stone". Then it is just a stone again.

Chapters

• 00:00:00 – Before we begin
• 00:01:24 – Going in: eyes, body, numbers
• 00:08:07 – Flint and steel
• 00:09:28 – The moment – and staying
• 00:12:11 – Reading a no right
• 00:15:02 – The word
• 00:17:56 – A table for two
• 00:19:19 – The band, and when both move
• 00:24:38 – Three days of charge
• 00:29:39 – Coming up

Background reading

• Why desire begins in the mind – and often gets stuck there

Your own trance: Is there a theme you would like to experience in trance? Tommy produces your custom trance – public from $49 or private, just for you. Request a trance

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This trance does not fight the camera. It starts with what is real – the surface under you, the sounds of the room, your breath – checks your stress level like a dial, and takes you down in a quiet lift from the head to the body. There, the camera comes down from the ceiling and turns into skin. You explore your own forearm the way sensate focus teaches it – temperature, pressure, texture – and then an evening scene without a plan: another person's breath beside you, everything at half speed, being seen without being graded. A short story about a pianist who learned to listen instead of perform brings it together.

You leave with a three-step return you can use anywhere, even in a hug in the kitchen: one long breath out, one point of contact, your eyes on something real. Breath, touch, here.

Who it is for: adults of any gender, single or partnered, who notice that they slip into watching and checking when things get intimate – and would like to be there for it instead.

What to expect: 35 minutes, sitting or lying down. Sensual and calm, never explicit. A gentle touch on your own arm (or only imagined), an evening scene in which the other person is optional, and nothing you have to achieve.

Before you listen

• For adults only (18+).
• Never while driving or anywhere you need to stay alert. Sit or lie down somewhere nobody needs you for a while.
• Not if you have experienced sexual trauma and are not being supported with it, or in acute dissociation, depersonalisation or psychosis. If sex is painful, have that checked by a doctor first.
• The trance includes a gentle touch on your own forearm. You can do it in your imagination instead – it works just as well.
• To stop at any point: open your eyes, feel your feet on the ground and say your name. You are back, clear and awake.
• This recording does not replace medical or psychotherapeutic care; it can sit alongside it.
• It ends with a slow count from one to five that brings you fully back.

The anchor in this trance

This trance offers you a self-anchor, announced openly in the recording.

• Cue: Press the tip of your thumb against the tip of your middle finger and breathe out once, long – a quiet reminder of breath, touch, here.
• How long: For as long as it is useful – at least the coming weeks. It becomes more familiar each time you use it.
• To release it: Decide that you no longer need it. Then it simply fades, like a habit you have outgrown.

Chapters

• 00:00:00 – Before we begin
• 00:01:14 – The camera on the ceiling
• 00:03:31 – Arriving: room, breath, warm water
• 00:10:39 – The body map
• 00:13:22 – The camera becomes skin
• 00:16:16 – Temperature, pressure, texture
• 00:20:23 – An evening without a plan
• 00:27:55 – The pianist
• 00:30:30 – Your anchor
• 00:33:45 – Coming back

Sources

• Barlow, D. H. (1986). Causes of sexual dysfunction: The role of anxiety and cognitive interference. Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology, 54(2), 140–148.
• Weiner, L., & Avery-Clark, C. (2014). Sensate Focus: clarifying the Masters and Johnson's model. Sexual and Relationship Therapy, 29(3), 307–319.
• Brotto, L. A., Basson, R., & Luria, M. (2008). A Mindfulness-Based Group Psychoeducational Intervention Targeting Sexual Arousal Disorder in Women. The Journal of Sexual Medicine, 5(7), 1646–1659.

Background reading

• Mindful touch: Sensate Focus and mindfulness
• Why desire begins in the mind – and often gets stuck there

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There is no partner in this trance, and nobody undresses anybody. Instead it borrows an idea that philosophers call object-oriented: the pillow, the dark, the glass of water on the nightstand and you all count equally. From there, your attention turns around. You feel the sheet feeling your skin. A forgotten corner of the room gets touched by your gaze. Between your palm and the bed, a thin, warm climate appears that belongs to neither of them.

The night moves on hour by hour, and desire becomes an object of its own – something with a temperature and many sides that you can hold and turn, without having to spend it or reach the end of it. Near dawn, the grey hour gives you something to keep.

Who it is for: adults who know a little about hypnosis, like to think while they drift, and are curious what erotic hypnosis can be without explicit scenes.

What to expect: 23 minutes 42 seconds, ideally lying in your own bed late at night. Sensual and implicit – surfaces, temperature, weight, pulse. No instructions about arousal: whatever your body does, or does not do, is right.

Before you listen

• For adults only (18+).
• Never while driving or anywhere you need to stay alert. Best lying in your own bed, at a time when nobody needs you.
• Not if you tend towards dissociation, depersonalisation or derealisation – the trance plays with the idea of being an object among objects. Not in an acute crisis, after alcohol or when you are overtired.
• To stop at any point: open your eyes, press your feet down and say your name out loud. You are back, clear and awake.
• The recording ends with a slow count from one to five that brings you fully back.

The anchor in this trance

This trance offers you a self-anchor, announced openly in the recording.

• Cue: Lay one palm flat on your own sheet and breathe out once, all the way – in your own bed, when the window starts to turn grey.
• How long: 30 days. After that it fades on its own, unless you decide to keep it.
• To release it: Decide once, clearly, that you do not want it. That is enough.

Chapters

• 00:00:00 – Before we start
• 00:01:30 – Going in
• 00:05:41 – Dusk
• 00:07:36 – The oldest lover
• 00:12:37 – The long night
• 00:14:51 – The weather between
• 00:17:30 – This voice – and silence
• 00:19:02 – The grey hour
• 00:21:02 – Coming back

Background reading

• Why desire begins in the mind – and often gets stuck there
• Mindful touch: Sensate Focus and mindfulness

Your own trance: Is there a theme you would like to experience in trance? Tommy produces your custom trance – public from $49 or private, just for you. Request a trance

More trances and background: Sexnosis